Full Disclaimer: Ain’t no picture. No memes. No gifs. I’m in your head this week. And if you think I’m talkin’ about you in this blog… I am. Don’t guess. LOL 😏

Girl, if you don’t stop being a martyr to every little thing 👊🏾

Am I saying cut everybody off and move to Bali (even them kids)?
I mean… maybe. I am just saying that don't ALWAYS have to be your angry default mode. Sometimes, all you really need is: rest. nurtured boundaries. and less Wi-Fi.

Ain’t you tired of holding stuff together?
Here’s the truth:
You already told them one too many times anyway.

You can be fully you—and still let what’s inevitable happen.

Side note:
This is what Black women have a hard time realizing…
Even if it fails—just like that pattern you saw coming from a mile away—
or even if, by some miracle, it don’t...

You. Still. Win.

Why?
Because this time, you didn’t sacrifice your peace.
You didn’t drain yourself dry trying to resuscitate something that already flatlined.

It’s Not Fake—It’s Freedom

Choosing not to interfere? That’s not being cold. That’s called nutured boundaries. It says:

I respect what’s happening... But I’m not fixing what I didn’t break.
I’m not pouring grace into something I didn’t create.

You’re not the monkey. Not the circus. And you definitely don’t have to be the clown. You can just be human—and baby, that’s more than enough.

It is important that Black women be okay watching things fail. Yes, even the things we prayed for. Even the people, the plans, the potential we tried to hold together with grit, grace, and good intentions. Failure isn’t the end.

It’s the beginning of clarity. Sometimes it’s God’s soft “yes”—wrapped in the quiet collapse of something you were never meant to carry.

Let It Fall. Let the Dust Settle.

Choosing wholeness is not quitting. It’s choosing: Peace over perfection. Discernment over dysfunction. Rest over rescue. Not everything needs to be saved. And especially not by you. Every so-called “failure” you’ve survived? It taught you something:

What to trust. What to release. What to stop lying to yourself about.

That wasn’t wasted time.That was data. That was wisdom.

So This Week? 

If it falls, let it. If it leaves, release it. If it breaks, bless it.

Peace doesn’t live in perfection. It lives in boundaries that nurture your soul.
And baby—that’s exactly what this season is calling for.

Be okay with:

Relationships shifting

Old coping mechanisms breaking down

Things might go left while you finally choose to go right.

Let it crumble. Don’t rush to rescue it. Don’t over-function in the name of loyalty. Don’t shrink your clarity to protect someone else’s comfort. If it’s falling, maybe it needs to. If it’s uncomfortable, maybe that’s growth. Everything ain’t yours to catch, carry, or clean up.
And every uncomfortable silence ain’t your cue to perform.

Let it crumble—respectfully.

#BLACKWOMENAREHUMAN

Sharell D. Cannady
CEO, Docked Ships

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