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You already know it’s serious when somebody starts with that line. 😅 So... yeah.

High-achieving, overfunctioning Black women, we love us some truth. Because we HATE when something feels off. But... we don’t just chase the truth—we stalk it.

Some of us done hid in bushes just to find it. And a few of us? Let’s be honest... we’ve stashed a car tire or two once we did.

But here’s the twist—just because we want the truth, doesn’t mean we know how to hold it.

Why Is Truth Hard To Handle? 

Because our dysfunctional families didn’t know how to handle the weight of the truth... so we never really learned how to, either. And this is exactly why high-achieving, over-functioning women streamline immediate solutions: ➡️ Get the truth. ➡️ Fix what’s wrong. ➡️ Move on.

But handling truth? It’s rarely that clean. It’s layered. It’s messy. And most of all—it’s slow. And for high-achieving women? Slow feels like uncertainty.
And uncertainty? And... That feels a lot like failure.

The truth is stressful. Honestly... whether it's “good” or “bad,” truth has a way of shaking things up. But today? We’re talking about the hard truths—the ones that expose patterns, not potential.

Most families don’t respond to truth with hugs, healing, or honest reflection.
Nah. They:

• Blame

• Deflect

• Avoid

• Put on a full Broadway production just to dodge accountability

What is Truth, Anyway?

Truth is not your feelings.
It’s not shame.
It’s not your vibe, your hunch, or your pet peeve in a monologue.

A fixed point.

Truth is a principle—and because it is a principle, it is spiritual.

Principles are timeless. They hold weight beyond emotion or opinion.
And the principle of truth?
It’s rooted in cause and effect—the patterns we see over time.

Truth doesn’t just show up in a single moment. It reveals itself through repeated behaviors, consistent thoughts, and deeply held beliefs.
That’s how we discern it—not just by how it feels, but by what it produces.

Now here’s my unpopular opinion: Truth isn’t limited to the exact sequence of events. What happened. Who said what. What time the mic dropped.

All of that? It can shift depending on memory, perspective, or emotion.
But the principle behind the truth—the pattern, the impact, the reality it reveals—that stays the same.

Because truth is not bound by moments—it’s revealed in meaning.
Whether it’s 1985 or 2085, truth will still be truth.

The Truth Does NOT Set Us Free 

Let’s rewrite the cliché:

The truth doesn’t set does not free.
Honoring it does.
Respecting it does.
Being accountable to it does.

#TheProblemIsThePattern

Sharell D. Cannady, CEO of Docked Ships

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