The wildest part?

In order to truly thrive and be successful, I’ve had to deconstruct what I once believed was “right.”

I’ve had to unlearn—and honestly, I’m still unlearning—
some of the very things that once helped me feel in control.

And in their place, I’ve had to start reprogramming a broader way of thinking that actually supports my well-being.

For example, in business I’ve had to understand that rest matters. Doing less matters.

Let me say that again.

Not more.
Less.

In entrepreneurship, people talk a lot about scaling.

Scaling means learning how to do less but create more impact and more revenue—working smarter so growth can happen without destroying yourself in the process.

And that completely contradicts the survival training I grew up with.

Because survival taught me:

Work harder.
Push longer.
Prove yourself.
Earn it.

So I have to continously challenge the voice in my head that calls rest laziness and burnout discipline.

Anthropologist Daena Funahashi writes that people often try so brutally hard to "master" their lives. Ironically, the tighter we grip, the more closed off we become to newer and greater possibilities.